BEFORE YOU BLAME, ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY
(Lessons from T.D Jakes’ book-” Before you do” and sermon”Get Beyond the blame games”)
“Let us not seek to fix the blame for the past. Let us accept our own responsibility our own responsibility for the future” John F. Kennedy.
- Think about what you want in life, your vision for your future. Start taking responsibility for your life. Think about what you need to change so as to achieve your vision and then try and figure out why you have been unable to make these changes so far. Then consider what you would do to deal with these challenges when they come up again in the future, because they will.
- Change doesn’t come easily; it’s hard to change patterns that you have adapted to over a long period of time. You may decide to take responsibility for your life and start living positively and making the right decision. However this is not easy. Many are the days when you will slip back into old destructive habits. On these days what you need is to get back on your feet, dust yourself and start again. Life is a marathon and not a sprint. Everyday renew your enthusiasm to take responsibility for your life by sitting down and reviewing your list, Pray about it and ask God to help you on your new walk and ask for forgiveness for the days you slip up. Soon you will begin to see your life unfold in ways you never imagined.
- Decide to take responsibility, Not Blame yourself. Focus on your future and where you are going instead of where you are coming from. When you are driving, concentrate more on the road ahead; don’t keep looking at the rearview mirror at where you came from. You may end up in accident. Develop strategy based on destiny and not history.
- Taking responsibility for yourself and your actions is a good thing but don’t take it as far as accepting responsibility for other people’s actions. This is unhealthy.
- Think about all the people or elements that you blame when things go wrong in your life. List them down and absolve them of these blames. Start taking responsibility for yourself.
- You can change the future if you decide to use today to affect tomorrow. Take responsibility for where you are, where you are going, blaming no one, not even yourself. If you are willing to recognize the vast power that you hold in the choices you make then your life will truly never be the same.
- EMOTIONS BEHIND TAKING RESPONSIBILITY: When you decide to take responsibility for your life, at first, it won’t be easy. Learning to stop blaming others for everything in your life is a difficult journey but a worthwhile one. At first different emotions will be evoked by making this decision, emotions such as guilt when you think about your objects of blame. Fear, anger and shame for past mistakes are other emotions that you may go through. All these emotions are normal when making change especially drastic ones such as trying to adjust a lifelong way of thinking-to experience a wide range of feelings, good or bad.
- However you feel, don’t judge yourself. Acknowledge what you are feeling, ask yourself whether your thoughts are rational or just fear talking, then stay fast to your commitment to yourself and stop blaming others and take responsibility for your life.
Very inspirational message from this man of God.
Check out his sermon on http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=thz6RtWw9Qg- Get beyond the blame games